How to amplify your career progress with Assertiveness
We can learn to develop our communication style for it to be healthier and more effective.
This blog post will train you to consider your communication position so that you can be assertive without being agressive and finally feel more comfortable about speaking up when you need to.
Assertive behaviour can be learned and I'll show you how to do it.
Sara Geiger is a Keynote Speaker, Executive Speaking Coach, and Opera Singer who likes to play with words, sounds, and your impact.
Her academic background is in Music Performance, Communication Science and Speech & Language Pathology. She’s currently completing a PhD in Opera Performance.
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Being assertive can be daunting, not only in the workplace but also in low key settings.
There’s always an element of risk when you need to be assertive. Stating your needs can come across as abrupt and rude but on the flip side, if you always avoid it you’ll appear meek and can start to lack confidence.
Take, for example, a client who asks a tricky question, and we need a valid answer fast. Or maybe a fellow workmate makes unreasonable or unfair demands, whatever it is- impactful speaking forms the kinds of good impressions you need to get ahead at work. So what can we do outside of the workplace to be ready for difficult conversations?
Assertiveness is a requirement of Leadership Development
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Here are the steps for you to get a stronger grasp on ingredients your communication needs so that you can showcase your Assertiveness
- Read the 5 tactics below (below)
- Watch 🎥 How to be assertive without being aggressive at work? – scroll down the page
- Pick up a copy of the Communication Growth Plan for Work and review areas that you can expand to extend your professional speaking skills.
- If you like what you’ve learned, join the C-Suite Waitlist or reach out to me directly for executive coaching sessions or book me as a Speaker for your next event or team training.
Now, what is ASSERTIVENESS?
My preferred definition, which you can find in Collin’s dictionary:
“someone who is assertive states their needs and opinions clearly, so that people take notice.”
Interestingly, the Collins dictionary leaves out “not being frightened.” I would argue that being assertive does not negate fear; it’s very typical to feel worried, anxious, and fearful when we’re being assertive.
Get clear on assertiveness, choose a realistic definition, and don’t be too hard on yourself while you work at integrating this new skill into your communication.
Here are some tips on how to develop assertive behavior:
1. Shift your Mindset
2. Assertiveness is not your temperament
3.Use body language
4. Watch your tone
5. Assertive behaviour should not distance you from the other person
🎥 Does Your Assertiveness need work?
Dealing with complex conversations, difficult colleagues, stressful meetings or important presentations doesn’t have to feel impossible.
If you’d like to get more tools for your career based communication so that you can increase your leadership potential and interact with precision and impact, head to my Youtube channel dedicated to sharing tactics for your speaking skills.
This necessary skill will lift the game for your speaking confidence:
“Being assertive shows that you respect yourself because you’re willing to stand up for your interests and express your thoughts and feelings. It also demonstrates that you’re aware of others’ rights and willing to work on resolving conflicts (Mayo Clinic).”
I hope these 5 tips will help you with an overview of assertiveness and importantly made you feel less pressure about suddenly transforming yourself into an assertive person, whatever that looks like!
Remember, this is a communication behaviour and skill that you use selectively and something that everyone needs to learn.
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